I never assume that people have the same definitions of 'what things are' and 'what things mean'. Especially when it comes to coaching. I often find that people define things differently.
So let us begin by making sure we have the same meaning of Coaching. That way we are comparing Apple with Apples! In this tutorial I define what coaching means to me.
In my career I've observed over 500 people in over 2000 coaching sessions, and from this experience, often people say they are coaching, yet actually they end up doing something else (for example, telling, instructing, training or mentoring).
Coaches do not say:
What I would do is....
"What I would do is...."
As a coach my primary aim is to ensure the person I am coaching, identifies new approaches and actions so that they move forward.
I have no compelling urge to provide the answers to the coachee, I am merely a conduit for them. Gaining this mindset can take time.
Without this mindset I see 'coaches' struggle, and as a result Coaching loses its value, not because it doesn't work, but that people cannot make it work.
Building on this, sometimes people do not understand what coaching is and what it isn't. We have high profile sports 'Coaches', who are very likely not to be coaching at all! And some who most definitely are. It confuses the matter, so let's clarify and simplify. Here's what I think coaching is:
What Coaching is
- Drawing out ideas
- Asking "What can you do?
- Being patient
- Coachee finding solution
- Steering to the right solution
- Understanding what coaching is
What Coaching isn't
- Giving Answers
- Saying "What I would do is..."
- Diving in
- My ideas
- Steering to my solution
- Saying we're coaching when we're not!
Here are some of my favourite definitions and quotes when it comes to explaining what Coaching is
Coaching is unlocking a person’s potential to maximise their own performance. It is helping them to learn rather than teaching themJohn Whitmore - “Coaching for Performance”
A vehicle to transport very important people from where they are now to where they want to be
Coaching is a DISCUSSION between you and a member of your staff, to HELP them MAINTAIN and/or IMPROVE PERFORMANCE
Coaching is a continuous process of developing an individuals’ performance by using day to day work to provide planned opportunities for learning under guidance
And finally my own definition of what a coach is..
A coach skilfully guides and supports an individual to identify specific actions that they can deliver to meet their goals - independent of the coach, not dependent on them.Phil LaViolette